"Why do I have a problem with Journaling?"
Let me ask you something...
Do you have a fear of getting an "F" on your own personal homework? A lot of people do.
The short answer is...Many people experience discomfort when it comes to: writing their experiences and feelings down; being vulnerable; following a routine; taking time for themselves; seeing on paper what they feel they've failed to accomplish in their life. Most, aren't willing to take the time to get that honest with themselves.
"Why Can't I Journal?", I assure you has been uttered by many women.
Why can journaling be so difficult? Well, there are many reasons. In the past your thoughts, beliefs and experiences may have been dismissed by others as unimportant or wrong. You may have grown up in that environment that kinds should be seen not heard. Your role models may not have been the best at communicating or helping you to learn how to express yourself. You may have even been told that you're to keep your thoughts to yourself, to not bother others with your feelings, or worse...keep what you have experienced a secret.
If you have grown up feeling like you are never going to live up to someone's expectations, be good enough or accepted, it can be very hard to feel like any part of you matters, especially how you feel. If you feel this way, you will continue to give up control and keep change from becoming a reality for you.
Unless you choose to either talk to someone or write these things down, your thoughts, beliefs and experiences can remain unnamed all your life. If this is your choice, then you're not living your life freely.
Look at writing as one way in which you can set yourself free, gain control, discover your own identity, improve your passion and increase your personal power.
As I mentioned in the short answer, journaling requires you to be vulnerable and honest. It turns the intangible into a tangible. It's this very process that can help you let go of the thoughts that have been holding you hostage.
When you start writing, don't worry if you write half truths or untruths down initially because you’re still not comfortable admitting to everything accurately. If you’re a person with integrity, you’ll correct any untruths as you go. You’ll do this because you really want to gain control of your experiences; honoring your core values and what you know to be right.
If you find it difficult to begin, start by writing lists of words, before you know it you will not be focused on the act of journaling; you will only be focused on letting go. It will feel so good once you make that choice.
To help you get started, you can focus on any of the following:
1.) Write down a list of every emotion you experience in a day and what emotions you want to feel, daily.
2.) Make a list of everything that influences you to feel the emotions you've listed in #1, no matter what they are: happy, sad, scared, confused, excited, loved, unloved, insecure, valued, unimportant, etc. In other words, what has to happen before you feel this emotion?
3.) Make a list of all the things you want and need in your life that you already have, experience or own. This helps you to recognize all that you're grateful for and appreciate.
4.) Make a list of all the things you don't have in your life YET, but want to acquire. What do you want and need in your life to feel happy, fulfilled, and successful?
5.) Write out a list of everything that you no longer want in your life and won’t settle for anymore. What needs to change?
6.) List your top three goals you want to achieve in the next three hours, days, months and years.
This process will open your eyes up to seeing and learning a lot about yourself.
You may even find out that your rebellious side just doesn't want to follow another order or be told what to do. You may have too much of that going on in your life so when someone tells you that you should journal, it becomes the last thing you want to do. Your struggle comes when you know that this may help you, yet your pride and fears keep you from doing something that could help you clarify and achieve more.
Remember you needn't share your journal with anyone. If you’re afraid someone will find it and read it, then try writing your feelings and experiences down on paper, then shred it.
The key to creating true happiness in life, whether you journal or not, is to clarify what you want and need; to pull out of you and make sense of what’s holding you back from creating the changes that support you living a healthy, happy, successful and more fulfilling life.
Change your perspective, turn "Why Can't I Journal?" into "I Want To Journal!"
If you do, you will be choosing to do more than just writing. You will be choosing to set yourself free.
For more ideas on how to make writing in a journal a part of your life, contact me. I'd be happy to help you get started.
NOTE: You can find the answers to your other questions under the title: "How Can You Change Emotions?"
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